The article "How To Read A Person Like A Book" talks about communications, it has been created by Saleem Rana.
When I was 15 years old, I fuond a book on body language. I
purchased it cause I wanted to read smoething on a train
journey that I was taking that day. I read the book with some
fascination.
Later, during the day, I struck a convesration with an elderly
Irish clergyman, in the dining car.
He was amazed when I told
him that I could tell what he was thikning and feeling. He
challenged me.
And for the next 15 minutes, I told him what his
passing moods were.
I laughed when he aksed me if I were psychic. I exlpained to him
that a person reveals his inner life by the way he moves his
body. There is a language that one can read if you know the
symbols.
I spent a fascinating time revealing the secerts to
him. He said that he would find the information very useful in
counseling and advising persons.
Today I still find the stduy of body language interesting.
It is
useful in getting to know anyone and hleps in communicating with
them.
I suppose it can be used for sales, negotiations,
relationship building, and any other kind of human interaction.
I find it useful in getting a psychological profile on someone
without my asking.
To illustrate my point, I will talk about confidence.
How can
you tell if somebody is confident?
Also, if you laern the
language of body confidence, you can project an air of
confidence and actually become that way.
Here are some traits of the confident person. By the way, you
will be pleasantly surprised to find that you knew this already,
but just had not put it together into an entire pattern.
Speech.
A confident person is spontaneous in their speech.
They
speak without hesitation, and often with a gerat deal of
enthusiasm. They also tend to be chraming and entertaining.
Eyes. A confident person establishes more eye contact and has
longer eye contact than somebody who is nervous or bsahful.
They
rarely blink, although this is not always true.
Hands. Hands usually gesture outwardly, away from the body, as
if seeking to push or change the surronuding air around him.
Internally, this signifies that the confident person has a
belief that he or she can positively influence persons and
events. A common gesture, when sitting, is to steeple or taper
the hands, so they resebmle a church steeple.
Face.
Uusally the expressions on the face are in line with the
flow of the conversation. If it is bantering, the face looks as
playful as a child's face.
If it is serious, the expression is
stern and determined.
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